Let's be friends....

I'm what you would call a Swan or an ugly duckling lol.....

Graceful on the surface but underneath I'm treading water to keep up.

After yesterday's post I have had lots of comments, private messages and texts from people who I see a lot and one or two got me thinking!

We all have plates to spin, some more than others, we all deal with things in different ways but ultimately do we all have some alter ego that we bring out in public? A front so to speak! I know for instance on Facebook the people who post about perfect lives, amazing food etc may not always be telling the truth. I often say I bet you don't post when you've just about managed to get a meal of nuggets, fries and beans on the table or that you've been in your pj's all day or that you've just shoved the kids in front of the TV for most of the day!... Yes we've all done it! 

But the best way I can describe the alter ego is with the words "I'm fine thanks, plodding on you know what it's like"

When in reality things are not as they seem, husbands working late, not getting on with family, kids driving you bonkers, work is crackers And heaven for bid your relationship is at breaking point.

Only the very close friends you have know the real you, not necessarily the inner circle but the one or two people you could spill your inner soul to.

And if you don't have anyone to chat to, what do you do?

I've been in that situation when I first moved to Abingdon.

Along came T and there I was in town I knew nobody, D was a toddler and A was at work - the Internet became my sanity. I was a member of a forum and I could pour my heart out to strangers who I knew wouldn't judge me and who became my Internet weirdies

A community of women and some menfolk who dared to cross into our path lol. But it was heaven sent - I'm still part of that community and am forever grateful to the few who I can call friends! 

Luckily this moment of loneliness passed as D joined LF nursery and I soon found real people to talk to. My health visitor too was amazing in helping me get through tough times that I had in this new chapter in my life.

I guess I'm really lucky to have a good life and good friends and my only issue is with myself and inner issues which come and go

But what if there was a support network in place for the times when you need it, to let of steam, learn to do new things and build confidence or have a natter over a coffee or wine,  you know I like wine!

This is one of my plans... A community group to get together and meet and be there in the flesh rather than online - where you can be you!

I've rambled but do know that if I say I'm fine I probably am.... It's normally when I have had a couple of vinos you'll know different lol!

Get in touch if you would like to get involved in some sort of meet up!